Autofellation. Nope, it’s not performing oral sex on a car. It is, however, when a person with a penis sucks themself off. Firstly, if that’s something which is available to you, kudos for being that flexible. And if it’s something you’re interested in, read on. Here’s the low-down on the solo blow job. 

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What is Autofellatio?

Autofellatio is where a person with a penis performs oral sex on themself. This requires a considerable degree of flexibility and can be physically challenging for many. Autofellatio is definitely in the more advanced level of sexual practices. There’s quite a lot of interest in the subject, which is likely both because of the acrobatic connotations of the practice and also because, frankly, who wouldn’t want blow-jobs as part of their solo sexual menu?

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The Kink Aspect

As with many sexual practices, there’s a kink aspect to autofellatio. Kink refers to any sexual preferences or behaviors which are outside what is generally accepted as “mainstream”. Note that just because something isn’t mainstream doesn’t make it remotely wrong or something to be critically judged. And indeed, for many people, sexual practices which sit outside of the mainstream, and are therefore Kink, can be more of a turn on. For some, the appeal of autofellatio lies in its novelty and a unique combination of self-pleasure and oral stimulation. Look at it as a form of self-exploration, or as an expression of sexual autonomy.

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Psychological Perspectives

From a psychological standpoint, the interest in autofellatio can be rooted in several factors:
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Autonomy and Control: Autofellatio gives a person complete control over their sexual pleasure.

Curiosity and Exploration: Human sexuality is diverse, and exploring the limits of physical and sexual capabilities can be an exciting part of a sexual journey.

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Physical Considerations

Autofellatio requires a significant degree of flexibility. It’s not something that everyone can physically achieve, and obviously attempting it without proper flexibility can easily lead to injury. Yoga and regular stretching exercises can increase flexibility, but it’s important to approach this practice with caution and awareness of one’s physical limits.

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Cultural and Social Perspectives

Autofellatio is often viewed with curiosity and, yes, at times stigma in popular culture. It challenges conventional norms about sexuality and sexual practices. As with many sexual behaviors that fall outside the 'mainstream,' there can be misunderstandings and judgments. While women and men who have sex with other men have been sucking penises for a long time, there could be notions around the practice being either unclean or gay. 

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Firstly, if you’re worried about cleanliness, just make sure you clean it properly. Secondly, if autofellation is something you’re interested in exploring but don’t want to because “it might make you gay” then have a little think about that. Firstly sucking your own penis doesn’t make you any more gay than using your hand to touch your own penis makes you gay. And secondly, what would be the problem with something being gay? 

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If you’ve caught your own internal monologue worrying about something “being gay”, either autofellation or something else, firstly don’t worry, but secondly, fairly quickly after not worrying, do also question whether you might have found some internalized homophobia. We’re not saying for one second that if you don’t suck your own cock you must be a massive homophobe. No sir. We’re just saying that it’s worth questioning and challenging any knee-jerk reactions to autofellation, both because it might be getting in the way of you exploring your sex life more openly and also because subconsciously this attitude might be leading to you treating gay acquaintances, colleagues, friends or family in a negative way. 

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Safety and Health

As a sexual practice, autofellatio is somewhat more safe than fellatio with a partner, as it involves only the individual. However, disease can still be transmitted. So, like any sexual activity, autofellatio should be approached with an understanding of one’s physical health and limitations. Ensuring personal hygiene is also important.

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Can you do Autofellatio?

There are a couple of really, fairly obvious barriers to autofellatio. If you’re remotely interested in trying it, be careful. You can damage yourself and your spine if you aren’t vigilant. Listen to your body and don’t push yourself too far, however fun or kinky it is in the moment.

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How low can you go? Before attempting autofellatio, work out how flexible you are. Unsurprisingly, you’re going to need to bend significantly at your waist.

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Build it up: If you’re not already very flexible, it’s something you’re going to need to work on gradually and carefully. Activities like yoga, particularly poses that enhance spinal flexibility, and regular stretching exercises can be helpful. It’s important to do this over time and not rush things.

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Fellatio says Relax: Get yourself in a private and comfortable space where you can relax. Using pillows or cushions for support can be helpful. 

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Phone a friend: You could also explore this practice with a partner either as part of general sexual exploration or as part of a Dominant/Submissive scene.

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Warm-Up: As with any physical activity, don’t skimp on the warm-up. Gentle stretching can help prepare your body. Don’t do anything jerky or try to force your body into places it doesn’t want to go.

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Assume the position: There are different positions to try, such as lying on your back and lifting your legs over your head or sitting and bending forward. Find what works and what doesn’t for your body.

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Go Slowly and Listen to Your Body: Proceed very slowly and carefully. If you experience any pain or discomfort, stop immediately. It’s vital to listen to your body and not push it beyond its limits.

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Wash up: As with any sexual activity, personal hygiene is important. Look after your bits and they’ll look after you.

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Don’t push it: Understand and accept that autofellatio is not achievable for everyone due to varying body types and levels of flexibility. It’s important to have realistic expectations. Just don’t force your body into something that is uncomfortable or painful.

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Call the experts: If you’re serious about exploring autofellatio, consider consulting with a professional - such as a yoga instructor or a physical therapist - who can provide guidance on safely improving your flexibility. Just make sure they’re open minded and kink-informed before you start explaining what you’re really looking for. Or, perhaps more easily, just explain that you’d generally really like to get much more flexible. 

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If you can’t quite get there: If you want to get involved in the party but can’t get your own lips on your bellend, then you can achieve a similar effect by put your back up against a wall with your penis looking at you. If you get the position right you might be able to ejaculate into your own mouth. This would usually be as a result of some kind of of D/S power game or kink. In the right context it can be fun, naughty, and is definitely WAY harder than it sounds.

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For a more straightforward version there are plenty of sex toys out there which can mimic the feel of lips on cock. Check out our Sex Toys guide for more info. Alternatively a warm apple pie is an excellent substitute. 

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Remember, safety and comfort are paramount. Autofellatio should never cause pain or discomfort, and if it does, it’s advisable to stop and consider other safe ways to explore your sexuality.

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Conclusion

Autofellatio, as a sexual practice, is a unique blend of self-pleasure, flexibility, and personal exploration. It’s a testament to the wide spectrum of human sexual expression. As with any sexual preference or kink, it’s important to approach autofellatio with an open mind, understanding, and respect for individual choices and boundaries. While it’s not always widely discussed, autofellatio is a part of the rich tapestry of human sexuality. It’s a wonderful example of the many diverse ways in which pleasure and physical capability intersect. Many of us won't, won’t have this practice available to us, however, if it’s something that happens for you, why not let us know all about it in the GASM community.